Confidence (not to be confused with arrogance) is important for happiness, and yet so few people have it.
Confidence helps provide us with meaningful relationships, enables us to be more successful in pursuit of our goals, and helps us be happier.
However, some people have acne and it doesn’t seem to phase them at all. They’re just not concerned about how other people view them. They may have figured out the trick to rockin’ confidence despite having acne.
It seems that happiness can be found for those who truly accept that self-love is not skin deep.
What Does Low Confidence Look Like?
Low confidence can look different for everyone, but generally, it’s an overwhelming feeling of not being good enough – for love, relationships, work, health, or anything. Low confidence instills in people the belief that they can never be successful, that they aren’t deserving of anything good.
If you don’t like yourself when you’re alone with your own thoughts, then you’ve got low confidence.
how can i improve my acne confidence?
You’ve got acne, and you’re working on getting rid of it. Maybe you haven’t found the right treatment yet, but that doesn’t mean you need to live in self-loathing until you do.
- Look at everything you’ve accomplished.
Maybe your acne isn’t as bad as it used to be. Maybe you’ve found a few acne triggers like . Or maybe you’ve just come to understand your acne better, and that gives you the insight you never had before.
Either way, celebrate your accomplishments. Write down everything you’re proud of about yourself, even if it doesn’t have to do with acne.
- Tell your inner critic to take a hike.
Seriously, that inner critic can be a real pain in the neck. Constructive criticism is crucial for self-reflection and growth, but there’s nothing constructive in thoughts like, “I’m ugly”. These destructive thoughts occur habitually, which should make you question how true they are.
Visualizing how we can improve can be much more productive than focusing on the negatives. Instead of saying “I’m such an idiot, I should never have tried this product”, remind yourself that “I could have researched the product better before trying it. I’ll do better next time.” Immediately this shifts the focus away from the negative, and homes in on exactly what you can do differently next time.
- Eliminate the negativity reminders.
Sometimes we have things lying around that we don't realize are attached to negative emotions. This could be old, clear-skinned photos when "you thought your acne was bad" that you frequently ruminate over, or it could be a negative friend who is constantly belittling you.
Assess your life, find where the negativity leads you, and address it or get rid of it altogether.
- Careful with the comparisons.
You may lack confidence because you're convinced that everyone else has it better than you do. If you want to build your confidence, then you must focus on improving your own life, not on making your life more like someone else's.
At the end of the day, it only matters if you're happy by your own standards (I’m a good person, I’m kind and thoughtful, etc.). If you have no idea what your standards are, then it's time to do some soul-searching before you move forward.
Maybe this is my inner nerd talking, but I love to learn. Learning new things makes me feel empowered and gives me an understanding I wouldn’t have had otherwise.
When I’m feeling down on my skin, I like to remind myself just how human having acne is by reading acne blogs, acne articles, books and social media posts. The more I learn about acne, the less I feel bad about having it.
- Join a community.
Even if you’re amidst an acne struggle like no other, remember that there’s someone out there who feels similar. Improve someone else’s day by leaving a kind comment on a photo or offer someone a listening ear. Not only will you improve that person’s day, but you’ll also likely improve your own.
When we have acne, we tend to shy away from social gatherings, especially ones that put our acne in the spotlight. But a sense of community can be so powerful for increasing your confidence. Shared experiences enable us to connect with others on a deeper level, as well as to exercise self-compassion and acceptance.
- Make a plan and set goals.
I always live by the adage, if you fail to plan, you plan to fail. Goal setting is one of the biggest keys to increasing confidence. When you set yourself realistic goals, you’ll earn a boost in confidence every time you achieve them.
Your long-term goals may be clear skin, but your short-term goals should outline how you plan to get there. Goals like “having a skin-healthy smoothie three times a week”, and “going for a thirty-minute walk four times a week” are realistic and achievable goals that can help boost your confidence.
- Try to frame all criticism constructively.
The things we say to ourselves, even if they are negative, should be phrased constructively – focusing on what can be done to improve, rather than what we’re doing wrong, can help shift your self-talk from confidence busting to confidence boosting.
The same goes for negative comments from others. The way we react and internalize these comments is more powerful than the comments themselves. Once you realize that the words and thoughts of others have no impact on you, your confidence is free to flourish.
- What’s so wrong with being imperfect?
Perfectionism is a sure-fire way to trample your confidence.
We make our own standards, we set our own bars. We don’t need to use someone else’s definition of perfect, we can make our own. If you set your standards just right, you’ll find you’re already enough. Imagine that!
There’s no shame in admitting your weaknesses. You don’t need to deny them, even if they make you uncomfortable. Once you identify your weaknesses – that you forget to wash your face, you eat too much dairy – you can actively begin working on them (see: Make a plan and set goals). There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being a work in progress!
Having confidence with acne isn’t an impossible or illogical feat. People with acne all over the world radiate confidence that many of us wish we had ourselves. Once we realize that confidence comes from within – what we think about ourselves – and not from what others think of us or our achievements in life, we’re able to find ways to improve our self-esteem and build our confidence.
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