July 29, 2022
When I first got acne, it shook me to the core and turned my entire world upside down. I had always enjoyed the luxury of having perfectly aesthetic, clear skin as a teenager (thanks to birth control), so whenI got off the pill andmy face broke out in painful, full-blown acne, I didn’thave a clue what to do.
If I had the chance togo back in time, I wouldstart bygiving the old me a big,warm hug, andthen share with myself these things I’ve learned along the way.
I know it’s hard to trust the process, but I can’t stress thispointenough. Have patience with your skin care products: give them time to work. Have patience with your skin: it takes time to heal the damage. And most importantly, have patience with yourself: you can’t know everything, and it’s okay to make mistakes.
I know it feels like adding product on top of product will get rid of your acne faster, but it won’t. It will negativelyaffect how the products work and willjust make your skinevenworse. You’ll even create new skin problems (dermatitis) by doing this.
Just because something is “natural” doesn’t mean it won’t really harm your skin. I know you’re on a quest to do right by your body, but that doesn’t mean synthetic products should be off the table and 'natural' things like baking soda can make skin worse because the pH level is way too basic.
I know it’s hard. Trust me, I know. But striving for the illusion of perfection is only going to burn you in the end, so don’t waste your valuable time and effort trying. And please don’t make your partner pay for your obsession, and don’t drain yourownbank account, either.
I know it feels like you really need totry every new“miracle”product(because, what if?), but don’t let this cause financial strain which can add more unneeded stress to you.
You’ll be waiting a long time, and you’ll let a lot of opportunities pass you by needlessly.Please,justget out and enjoy life. Stop thinking about whatshouldbe,and learn to appreciatewhat is. I promise you,your acne will only hold you back if you let it, and you’ll be missing out on so much fun if you do. If you feel it's too hard, make it easier by taking small steps and set small doable goals.
Don’t worry about offending other people with your acne, that’s their problem.It will feel good, and nobody is going to buckle in disgust at your sight, I swear. But if that’s not what you’re feeling that day and you want to wear some makeup, that’s okay, too. Whatever you choose, feel empowered by your decision.
No detox or cleanse in the world is going to magically bring you clear skin, so save your time and effort, and just focus on taking real good care of yourself – mind, body and soul (the rest will follow).
I know it can be addicting, but it’s just a major trigger for a plummet in self-esteem. You need to recognize that you, and your skin, are different from each and everyone else, and that these hurtful comparisons are only steering you further away from your goals. If you need to put on hold on social media, do it!
Repeat: YOU ARE STILL A WORTHWHILE HUMAN BEING.Your worth is not for one second tied up in your skin,andit is not tied up in what others think of you, either.
Hating yourself won’t give you clearer skin any faster than loving yourself will, and it will be a more enjoyable journey.
Even though it stings when it happens, they will be few and far between.And don’tyou dareoverlook your amazing qualities by focusing on something insignificant to your worth like acne.
These may seem overly simplistic. You might be thinking that I would logically want to skip all the hardship and just tell myself the real “secret” to clearing my skin. But the truth is, these were all monumental lessons I had to learn to get here, and truthfully, the things Ithink that Ineeded to hear the most.
Having acne made me feel like a failure. It made me feel defeated, confused and alone. All I really needed to know was that this was okay, and that in time, I could be sure that things would improve. Had I known these things then, maybe I wouldn’t have gone through some of the harder times, and maybe my skin would have cleared up even sooner.
September 20, 2022
Thank you so much for this post. It really lifted up my spirits. I’m dealing with a really bad case of acne and it’s been eating me up inside. Every time I look in the mirror it hurts my soul. This post is everything and more. It reminds me there is more to life than just the acne on my face. I’m still a worthwhile human being!!
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February 14, 2023
This has literally changed my life. It has given me the courage to feel good about my skin and not compare it to others. A ll of my friends have really nice skin and they all have boyfriends and I feel kind of alone but now I feel kind of better.