By Kali Kushner
What Is Acne? And What Is Self-Love? How do these two relate to each other? How does acne affect one’s self esteem? Will I learn to love myself despite this skin condition? And how can I get through acne depression? These are the questions that people ask themselves when going through this certain phase.
In one study about this, acne is considered as a disorder where the pilosebaceous units (i.e, the most dense part in the scalp, followed by the face, neck and shoulders), causing breakouts and spots on the body. Acne most commonly affects teenage and young adult women, as well as male human beings. This type of skin condition can either be mild, moderate or severe, however, all acne types can severely affect one’s body image and self-esteem.
Individuals going through acne often feel ashamed of themselves in a sense that they shy away from other people rather than socializing with them. There are also cases when people with acne often feel unattractive and lack the self-confidence to the point where they would feel shy to be friends with someone of the opposite gender, worry about what other people would say or think about them, and worse, they face sarcastic or mean comments about their acne. Acne may affect more than just our skin. It may also affect our entire life.
Acne may affect more than just our skin. It may also affect our entire life in a way that it makes us less confident and lower our self esteem, which no one except ourselves, understands. This skin condition can be a trivial problem.
Going through acne is not as easy as one may think it is. Acne sufferers tend to feel depressed, angry, anxious and even overwhelmed to the point that they let this skin condition matter a lot. For them, acne negatively affects their whole life, especially when they think that their acne is longer-lasting or has been resistant to any treatments given to them.
Nowadays, the society puts a great emphasis on physical appearance, from the head up to the toe. When acne enters your life, everything is being affected. You start to withdraw from other people because you feel uncomfortable or embarrassed about your skin.
Acne can really have profound effects on an individual’s life, both social and psychological. Even a mild acne can already be disabling. Whether we are at social gatherings, home, school and even work. For us girls, we associate acne with wearing makeup by covering our face with cakey foundation just so that people won’t see through it.
We all know that our skin is one of the things people first notice. When we have acne, we are at a disadvantageous side where people emphasize more on good looks. While some may cope better than us, we are psychologically and physically affected by acne.
A lot of people often mistakenly believe that people with acne have low hygiene standards. This statement is sad, but true.
b) LACK OF EMPATHY
People who lack empathy do not truly understand what an individual suffering with acne is going through. They are quick to pass judgments or make unsolicited advice or comment without meaning to.
c) INABILITY TO SOCIALIZE WITH THE OPPOSITE GENDER
We all go through this phase where we feel less confident to make friends or socialize with someone of the opposite sex and shy away because of fear that they would judge our physical appearance.
There are instances where people really make nasty comments about our acne. Words like “Ewww.. why is your face like that?” or “Don’t you even have makeup on?” can really make a permanent mark on one’s life , especially self-esteem.
Acne can also take its toll in job applications. Bosses judge from our physical appearance, especially in some industries where looks are one of the most important things or criteria.
1) SILENCE THOSE INNER CRITIC
Harsh words can really break us or other people living with acne, but we can silence our inner critic by replacing negative thoughts with positive ones.
Having compassion on yourself is one way of showing love despite your flaws or imperfections. Pitying yourself won’t help alleviate those acne.
3) RECOGNIZE YOUR WORTH OR VALUE
Everyone has their own imperfections or insecurities, believe it or not. You do not have to seek validation or approval from other people just to feel accepted. You are your own. Love yourself more, with or without acne. Recognizing your worth or value is one way of showing that you love yourself.
It’s normal to feel down at some point of our lives, but it doesn’t have to be forever. Instead of focusing on your physical flaws like, why not raise them by engaging in things or activities you are more skillful at?
Summarizing this, acne doesn’t have to be there forever. You can deal with it by simply following the tips mentioned above. Love yourself more by recognizing your worth or value in spite of acne. Always remind yourself that you are strong and nobody’s judgment really matters because what only matters is your own judgment of yourself.